Feelings Count. Even if You Disagree

I had an hour occasion to be with a certain group of people for a certain purpose once; let us say it was a church. I was under the impression that I and my kin could share our triumphs and pains there. In the end I found that we could not. It was probably because we were in a minority there.

Now do not be mistaken. There were various cultures of people in the congregation. We missed the comment when we first started there about it being a “multiethnic and multigenerational” congregation. Racial and cultural minorities were outliers and were, so we found out, expected to fall in and comply.

So when a comment came up that was an affront to every non-European in the room, we spoke up. We were the only ones to speak up. And in the end we left, saddened that we could not make a difference, but glad to have taken a stand.

Our feelings mattered and still do. We continue to fight oppression–regardless of the particular “ism” (racism, sexism, ageism, genderism, financialism, etc.).

Don’t settle. Don’t blend.

Concern for the Abuser

I think this happens more often than people realize, where the victim is more concerned about the abuser’s well-being and what others are going to think about said abuser than they are about themselves.
Rihanna’s reaction does not surprise me. What did surprise me was the number of women who said things like “Chris Brown is hot, I’d get with him. So what if he abused me a little?”
Now…tell me why we don’t need feminism.
~The Cheese~
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