What You’re Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone’s Preferred Gender Pronouns

My son’s best friend is trans (female to male). He has encountered a lot of ignorance and bullying. He lives with a severe version of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and this is more than enough of a challenge without people always telling him that he’s a “freak” or a “pervert.”
I don’t know how long this young man has in this world. All the medications he’s on plus the effects of the disease on his vascular system have caused him to have seizures and, more recently, a subarachnoid bleed and a stroke. He’s not even 20 years old.
This boy is not a pervert or a sicko, he is simply a person who feels that he was born into a body of the wrong gender. He is the gentlest soul and does not deserve the abuses that have been heaped on him.

Let's Queer Things Up!

It can’t be emphasized enough: Coming out as transgender or any variation thereof is downright terrifying. It is often met with criticism, resistance, and invalidation. When I came out to friends, it felt like the world was crashing down all around me.

And by far, the worst part was the resistance I faced when asking others to stop saying “she.” Beyond coming out, we also ask others to change a very ingrained habit — to use different pronouns when speaking about us. This is where I encountered the most turmoil.

Some folks simply don’t understand what they are saying when they refuse to use someone’s preferred gender pronouns.

When someone states their preferred pronouns (he, she, ze, they, etc), they are asking for your respect. And when you choose not to use these pronouns, and instead opt for your own, you are not only invalidating someone’s identity, but you are…

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Should Boxing Be Banned?

My mother believes that boxing should be banned. She is right that the head injuries incurred by boxers are troubling and can cause physical and psychological problems down the line. She is right about mafia involvement in boxing. However, I think there are other steps that can be taken rather than banning the sport outright.

Boxing should be cleaned up. Steps should be taken to prevent fighters from incurring head injuries. A new set of criteria should be developed for choosing a winner in a match as opposed to the K.O. Whenever someone is knocked out, they have incurred a head injury. Head injuries are serious business, and the aftereffects can last a lifetime, particularly after multiple head injuries have been incurred.

The general public does not realize just how serious head injuries are. They see people getting knocked over the head on television, and that person gets up a bit later with a headache but is all right. In reality, a head injury is much more serious. There can be lasting aftereffects including dizziness, recurring headaches, seizures, mood swings. Head injuries can even kill.

I believe that boxing is a legitimate sport, but the aspect of head injuries very definitely needs to be addressed. The champion can’t very well enjoy the winnings if they are struggling with post-concussion syndrome for the remainder of their life, or worse, if their life is over because of an ill-fated blow.

~Tempest~

Republican Family Values – ‘Native American tribe cancels Ted Nugent concert over his ‘racist views,’ ‘hate-filled remarks’

Ted may have the right to spout his bigoted views, but that doesn’t mean that anyone is forced to listen to or accept them. He’s really gone off the rails in recent years. Good for the casino for cancelling his shows. He’ll probably never see the error of his ways, but at least he isn’t getting paid for it!
Being a halfway decent guitarist who has sold records does not give one carte blanche to spew whatever hateful rhetoric that comes to one’s mind.

The Last Of The Millenniums

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The mantra from the Republicans is “Liberals aren’t tolerant of someone who doesn’t agree with them”.

No.

Liberals aren’t tolerant of hate.

This isn’t freedom of speech. This is just vile hate.

Any one who isn’t against this……doesn’t want a civil society.

And that would be the teabaggers.

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‘Ted Nugent hits campaign trail after calling Obama ‘subhuman mongrel'(1)

‘Nugent says Obama administration is like Nazis'(2)

‘Ted Nugent: President Obama Just Like Child Molesters And Carjackers’!(3)

TACOMA, Wash. — ‘Emerald Queen Casino will cancel two Ted Nugent concerts that were scheduled August 2 and 3 over allegations of racist remarks by the singer’.

Puyallup Tribe officials said the decision came after learning that Nugent has said racist remarks’.

“The first amendment gives people the right free speech, but I think racism is intolerable and not acceptable here,” said Puyallup Tribal Council Vice President Lawrence W. LaPointe. “We’ve been getting…

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5 Radio Hits That Are Seriously Pissing Me Off Right Now

These are pretty dreadful. The only thing I would say to Jason DeRulo is “you wish, d-bag.” Barf!

Disrupting Dinner Parties

Everyone knows that being a feminist ruins your ability to enjoy large swathes of pop culture. Movies, TV shows, video games, and music – every mindless diversion you once appreciated is now a minefield of outrage and indignation. I can’t even watch the Food Network anymore, for pete’s sake.

Except for Chopped. I love you, Chopped. Except for Chopped. I love you, Chopped.

My one remaining toehold in popular culture is the radio, partly because my car doesn’t have an aux jack, and partly (okay, mostly) because I’m in love with Ke$ha.

I am so very much not kidding. I am so very much not kidding.

It is because of this love for Ke$ha that I subject myself to the stream of casual misogyny and objectification that infects at least 50% of the songs on the radio right now. I present to you the top five offenders that have me jabbing the station buttons with the most regularity, in order from “irritating” to “disgusting and infuriating.”

[Note: I…

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Third Round Of Voting For Fan Built Episode Of Hawaii Five-0 Now Open

I am not a fan of the Hawaii 5-0 Reboot. The original Hawaii 50- was…well, perhaps it was “just another cop show,” but it was unique. This version is just another angsty Aughts cop show. I think I could have appreciated it more if it had been Hawaii 5-0: The Next Generation. Instead, it’s as if my beloved 70’s cops from the Big Island were replaced with glossy, bleached–toothed, print-ready magazine models. Nothing against the performers, but the new Hawaii 5-0 really isn’t my bag, and the creators should be booked on charges of criminal lack of originality.