What You’re Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone’s Preferred Gender Pronouns

My son’s best friend is trans (female to male). He has encountered a lot of ignorance and bullying. He lives with a severe version of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and this is more than enough of a challenge without people always telling him that he’s a “freak” or a “pervert.”
I don’t know how long this young man has in this world. All the medications he’s on plus the effects of the disease on his vascular system have caused him to have seizures and, more recently, a subarachnoid bleed and a stroke. He’s not even 20 years old.
This boy is not a pervert or a sicko, he is simply a person who feels that he was born into a body of the wrong gender. He is the gentlest soul and does not deserve the abuses that have been heaped on him.

Let's Queer Things Up!

It can’t be emphasized enough: Coming out as transgender or any variation thereof is downright terrifying. It is often met with criticism, resistance, and invalidation. When I came out to friends, it felt like the world was crashing down all around me.

And by far, the worst part was the resistance I faced when asking others to stop saying “she.” Beyond coming out, we also ask others to change a very ingrained habit — to use different pronouns when speaking about us. This is where I encountered the most turmoil.

Some folks simply don’t understand what they are saying when they refuse to use someone’s preferred gender pronouns.

When someone states their preferred pronouns (he, she, ze, they, etc), they are asking for your respect. And when you choose not to use these pronouns, and instead opt for your own, you are not only invalidating someone’s identity, but you are…

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Should Boxing Be Banned?

My mother believes that boxing should be banned. She is right that the head injuries incurred by boxers are troubling and can cause physical and psychological problems down the line. She is right about mafia involvement in boxing. However, I think there are other steps that can be taken rather than banning the sport outright.

Boxing should be cleaned up. Steps should be taken to prevent fighters from incurring head injuries. A new set of criteria should be developed for choosing a winner in a match as opposed to the K.O. Whenever someone is knocked out, they have incurred a head injury. Head injuries are serious business, and the aftereffects can last a lifetime, particularly after multiple head injuries have been incurred.

The general public does not realize just how serious head injuries are. They see people getting knocked over the head on television, and that person gets up a bit later with a headache but is all right. In reality, a head injury is much more serious. There can be lasting aftereffects including dizziness, recurring headaches, seizures, mood swings. Head injuries can even kill.

I believe that boxing is a legitimate sport, but the aspect of head injuries very definitely needs to be addressed. The champion can’t very well enjoy the winnings if they are struggling with post-concussion syndrome for the remainder of their life, or worse, if their life is over because of an ill-fated blow.

~Tempest~

Republican Family Values – ‘Native American tribe cancels Ted Nugent concert over his ‘racist views,’ ‘hate-filled remarks’

Ted may have the right to spout his bigoted views, but that doesn’t mean that anyone is forced to listen to or accept them. He’s really gone off the rails in recent years. Good for the casino for cancelling his shows. He’ll probably never see the error of his ways, but at least he isn’t getting paid for it!
Being a halfway decent guitarist who has sold records does not give one carte blanche to spew whatever hateful rhetoric that comes to one’s mind.

The Last Of The Millenniums

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The mantra from the Republicans is “Liberals aren’t tolerant of someone who doesn’t agree with them”.

No.

Liberals aren’t tolerant of hate.

This isn’t freedom of speech. This is just vile hate.

Any one who isn’t against this……doesn’t want a civil society.

And that would be the teabaggers.

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‘Ted Nugent hits campaign trail after calling Obama ‘subhuman mongrel'(1)

‘Nugent says Obama administration is like Nazis'(2)

‘Ted Nugent: President Obama Just Like Child Molesters And Carjackers’!(3)

TACOMA, Wash. — ‘Emerald Queen Casino will cancel two Ted Nugent concerts that were scheduled August 2 and 3 over allegations of racist remarks by the singer’.

Puyallup Tribe officials said the decision came after learning that Nugent has said racist remarks’.

“The first amendment gives people the right free speech, but I think racism is intolerable and not acceptable here,” said Puyallup Tribal Council Vice President Lawrence W. LaPointe. “We’ve been getting…

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India’s Rapes Too Often Excused as ‘Boys Will Be Boys’

The boys will be boys attitude prevails in Western countries too. It gives me a little hope to see the protesters decrying this act of violence and demanding justice.
“Boys will be boys” is not an excuse for vile acts against women. Ever.

WOMEN. HEALING. VIOLENCE.

Let’s stop saying that half the human race is inherently aggressive, predatory and incapable of transformation.

BY Mallika Dutt

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Yet again global outrage and attention are focused on India. In the most recent rape-murder in Uttar Pradesh, a story of “boys will be boys” unfolded in a chilling and familiar pattern. Two teenage girls belonging to the Dalit caste went out to the fields because there are not enough toilet facilities for women in India. They never returned.

The shocked reaction to their rape and murder was ignited in part by the devastating image of these two young girls left hanging from a tree. This image–with the local villagers holding vigil beneath them–hit me in the solar plexus despite my three decades of working to end violence against women. It’s all so hauntingly familiar–and yet the rage at the inhumanity of men and the pain at the loss of yet…

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5 Radio Hits That Are Seriously Pissing Me Off Right Now

These are pretty dreadful. The only thing I would say to Jason DeRulo is “you wish, d-bag.” Barf!

Disrupting Dinner Parties

Everyone knows that being a feminist ruins your ability to enjoy large swathes of pop culture. Movies, TV shows, video games, and music – every mindless diversion you once appreciated is now a minefield of outrage and indignation. I can’t even watch the Food Network anymore, for pete’s sake.

Except for Chopped. I love you, Chopped. Except for Chopped. I love you, Chopped.

My one remaining toehold in popular culture is the radio, partly because my car doesn’t have an aux jack, and partly (okay, mostly) because I’m in love with Ke$ha.

I am so very much not kidding. I am so very much not kidding.

It is because of this love for Ke$ha that I subject myself to the stream of casual misogyny and objectification that infects at least 50% of the songs on the radio right now. I present to you the top five offenders that have me jabbing the station buttons with the most regularity, in order from “irritating” to “disgusting and infuriating.”

[Note: I…

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Let’s Talk About The Minimum Wage

It’s damn near impossible to live on double the minimum wage. It’s a tight squeeze even on triple the minimum wage. Expecting people to live on the minimum wage is a joke.

The Militant Negro™

By Jueseppi B.

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Let’s Talk About the Minimum Wage

Published on May 1, 2014

Workers, business owners and community leaders share why they think it’s time to raise the federal minimum wage. Visit http://www.dol.gov/minwage to learn more about this issue.

The Employment Situation in April

US created 288,000 jobs in April vs 210,000 est

Job creation accelerated in April as the U.S. economy added 288,000 new positions, while the unemployment rate plummeted to 6.3 percent amid a sharp drop in the workforce.

Economists had been anticipating 210,000 new jobs and a 6.6 percent rate.

Employment growth was solid in April, as businesses added jobs for the 50th consecutive month, and the unemployment rate fell. The employment data can fluctuate from month-to-month, and while this month’s report happens to be above expectations, it is still broadly consistent with the recent trends we have been seeing in the labor market. The President…

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Third Round Of Voting For Fan Built Episode Of Hawaii Five-0 Now Open

I am not a fan of the Hawaii 5-0 Reboot. The original Hawaii 50- was…well, perhaps it was “just another cop show,” but it was unique. This version is just another angsty Aughts cop show. I think I could have appreciated it more if it had been Hawaii 5-0: The Next Generation. Instead, it’s as if my beloved 70’s cops from the Big Island were replaced with glossy, bleached–toothed, print-ready magazine models. Nothing against the performers, but the new Hawaii 5-0 really isn’t my bag, and the creators should be booked on charges of criminal lack of originality.

CBS DC

It’s time to vote again for the fan built episode of Hawaii Five-0. Producers behind the show have been giving fans the opportunity to vote on almost every element of the show.

This third roundof voting deals with what music will be featured on the show. Artists to vote for include The Black Keys, The Green, Switchfoot or Johnnyswim. Voting in Phase 3 onCBS.com continues until February 21st, with the last phase of voting, on the Episode Title, taking place from March 7th through the 14th.

Fans already voted on many of the key elements of the show during the first two phases. Phase 1 voting decided the scene of the crime, the victim, the murder weapon, the evidence, the suspect and the take down. While Phase 2 focused on props and wardrobe of the cast.

Watch here to learn more about the episode.

The fan built…

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‘No Pants Metro Ride’ Planned For Sunday

Today, I want you all to be really, really glad. You see, I declined to do this. You did not have to see my bare thighs and scantily clad cottage cheese abomination of a behind. Rejoice!
–Tempest

CBS DC

LANHAM, Md. (CBSDC) — If you’re riding Metro today, you may see a little more skin than you’re prepared for.

If you do glimpse a suspicious number of bare thighs while riding, it’s probably due to the annual “No Pants Metro Ride.”

An event page on Facebook says participants should meet at Hancock Park by L’Enfant Plaza Metro where a brief pre-ride meeting will begin at 2 p.m.

The idea of the ride, according to Facebook, “is to appear as if you had no idea that you were missing pants or that you knew but didn’t think it was a big deal.”

Organizers advise participants to keep pants on your person but hidden in a bag or backpack.

“If any figure of authority tells you to put your pants back on, do as they say,” the event page says. “Unfortunately indecency laws are entirely subjective and while we haven’t had…

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