Burgers With a Side Order of Misogyny and Microaggressions

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I was having dinner with my mother and my son at Applebee’s tonight. They always keep their televisions on sports channels, which I tend to half watch. Most of the time I see nothing worthy of pondering. Tonight, however, I was left with the bad taste of sexist microaggressions in my mouth.

Carl’s Junior ads have become increasingly sexist. The ad I viewed tonight was pretty well softcore pornography. It was shown on a station such as ESPN during prime time hours.

There are those who would ask me what the big deal is. The ad was suggestive, but the women weren’t actually naked.

The big deal has nothing to do with the degree of nudity involved. In the first place, it is offensive to have women put on display as sex objects in order to sell projects.

One might argue that while this may be true, there’s nothing we can do about it. Sex sells,and there are bigger problems in the world.

It is true that there are problems which are more directly violent and life-threatening. Also, the argument that “sex sells” in cases such as this really translates to misogyny sells. If they were truly promoting their product using “sex sells” as a guide for creating their advertisement, then both men and women wearing scanty clothing and behaving in a sexualized manner would appear in the ad.

Since men never appear in ads such as this one wearing skimpy clothes and behaving in a sexualized manner, the phrase “sex sells” is, in fact, bullshit. Misogyny sells, and its target audience is dudebros.

One might argue that it is mostly men who watch the sports channels, ergo, airing advertisements of this nature does no harm. It may be primarily men who view sports channels. However, advertising of this nature is not without harm.

In the setting I was in, a family restaurant, there will be young children. Little girls viewing advertisements such as this one are learning that this is how women are supposed to look and behave. They are learning that if they do not look like the sexy women in the advertisements they are not “real women.” They are learning that they need to behave in a submissive and sexy fashion in order for men to find them attractive.

Little boys are learning that women are supposed to behave in an overtly sexual manner to please men. They are learning that women are objects used to sell products. They are learning that women are things rather than people.

As well, the idea that sports are only “for the boys” is a harmful one. It creates a notion that women who enjoy sports, either as observers or as participants, don’t matter. Women, if they appear at all, are supposed to be eye candy. They are not to be taken seriously.

Some may say, well, that’s just the way it is. You can’t fight the tide.

Actually, you can. The advertisers want money. Don’t give them what they want. Don’t buy products from any company that uses misogyny to sell said products.

I’m of the opinion that if you can’t sell your product without using the “sex sells” excuse, your product must not be able to stand on its own merit. I don’t want it.

It actually is possible for women to be portrayed as sexy without demeaning them. Compare the problematic Carl’s Junior ad with one of my favorite music videos.

You can find the Carl’s Junior ad here. I am not embedding the ad as I do not want to increase their hits. I’ve used a Do Not Link URL.

Here is the music video.

 Can the women portrayed in the video be perceived as sexy or appealing? Absolutely, but they are also not there only as “eye candy” for the male gaze. They are part of a story. Their presence may be representative of an idea, but they are autonomous beings. One may find them pleasing, but they are not there solely to be pleasing. 

The men in the video can also be perceived as appealing and sexy.

This is the difference between media that has sexual appeal and media that appeals to sexist ideals in order to sell a product.

I don’t expect honesty from advertisers. However, if they were to be honest, they would have to admit that “sex” is not what they’re selling. They’re selling misogyny, using sexed-up, submissive women as objects to promote their products. It’s an outmoded idea that sends a terrible message. Consumers need to stop buying it.

~The Real Cie~

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Same Shit Different Day

Initially, I was interested in what this guy had to say. Then he proved himself to be nothing but another boring, fatphobic asshole who believes that “comedy” means encouraging the sheep to laugh at your mean-spirited jokes about people you don’t even know. Gee, that’s never been done. Next!

~Spectra~

About Privilege

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This is a reply to a post on the This is Thin Privilege Tumblr.

The O.P. states:

I admit fat oppression is a real thing. But some of your posts I feel are harmful to all women. I don’t know how much control you have over what is posted, but posts that deny the oppression that thin women face as well scare me. I don’t want any woman to ever feel that the sexism that they face is lesser because they are thin So many of your posts are enlightening, and important. But others I fear perpetuate the idea that it is ok to harm thin women. No one should promote internal sexism.

I hope the OP takes some time to learn about privilege.

I used to be one of those white people who shrieked that “not all white people are like that” whenever a non-white person spoke angrily about the treatment of non-white people. I didn’t want to be seen as one of “those” white people. Well, since I’m not one of “those white people,” they weren’t talking about me, and I needed to STFU and listen.

I also believed in “reverse racism.”

Are there non-white people who are prejudiced against white people across the board? Of course there are. But in the U.S. at any rate, and I would venture to say in Western society, there is no such thing as racism against white people.

Prejudice is individual. Racism is institutionalized and socially sanctioned for a myriad of reasons that it would take too long to go into here.

Are all women oppressed in modern society? Of course we are. It does not matter our size or color. We are all oppressed.

Are there people who are prejudiced against thin people? Yes, there are.

However, thin people do not EVER experience the systematic prejudice and flat-out derision that fat people do in this society.

People, learn about privilege. It was hard for me to acknowledge that I had privilege in certain ways, because it’s an awful thing. But I in fact do have privilege. I have white privilege, straight privilege, and North American privilege. This does not mean I will never encounter prejudice, in fact I have encountered prejudice for my skin color. I have been beaten up for it.

What it means is that in Western society, my skin color does not prevent me from getting a job or being able to live where I want to live. When I walk into a store, nobody assumes that I’m going to shoplift. I am not thought of as a lesser being for the color of my skin.

When we have privilege, we need to not derail the conversation and make it about us. We need to stop and listen.

From the WTF Files: American Apparel’s Hairy Manikins

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Here is the original post from AlterNet.

I find the hairless trend on real women to be creepy. I’m pretty old-school on this. Adults are supposed to have hair “down there.” Of course, in the long run, what other people do with their pubes is really none of anyone else’s business. It’s one of those “gads, I can’t believe I’m discussing this” topics.
I despise American Apparel, and even if I were young, thin, and hip enough to wear their clothes, I would sooner wear a garbage bag. This whole thing is a ploy for attention, of course. Putting pubes on manikins is ludicrous.

“The company also recently stirred a bit of genuinely interesting controversy with a T-shirt collaboration with artist Petra Collins. The shirt featured a line drawing of a woman’s menstruating vagina, which made some people feel very mad and uncomfortable.”

It’s a bit odd that a depiction of a menstruating vagina would make anyone angry, although there are people who tend to rave like lunatics about menstruation. However, I can’t imagine myself wearing a shirt with a even a line drawing of a menstruating vagina…or any other vagina or penis for that matter. I may not know art, but I know what I don’t want on my shirt!

Here is one of those farm-fresh ideas that I don’t see happening any time soon. What if American Apparel used models of all races and in all ranges of body types? Of course THAT will never happen. But their manikins now have pubes, so they are EDGY, by golly!

~Cie~

Anti Rape Protester Stabbed

I hope for the best for this brave young man. His life is in danger from vile thugs who want to maintain the status quo wherein they have power without question.

Kolkata: Kamduni was firmly back on the political sparring field on Sunday after the overnight attack on Bhaskar Mondal, president of the anti-rape forum Kamduni Pratibadi Mancha, reportedly by Trinamool Congress goons. The CPM and Congress sharply criticized the attempt to “muffle” the Kamduni protests, earning a sharper retort by state food minister Jyotipriyo Mullick. But what would probably be worse for the Trinamool Congress-led regime, the incident seems to have reignited the Kamduni embers.

I have added this link several hours later. This is not politically motivated but offers proof that there are men out there who are desperate to keep women subjugated. It is a similar mentality to a majority race wanting to keep minority races subjugated. These individuals feel threatened by the idea of second class citizens gaining equality and autonomy, and it can become dangerous for those people who dare to speak out against them.

Derision is Not Acceptable

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My great grandmother looked a lot like this.

The older I get, the more I look like this.

You know, I get that this woman, my great grandmother, and I will never be seen as icons of beauty and sexual desirability, and I’m fine with that.

What I don’t understand is why it is deemed acceptable to shower derision upon people who are not deemed sexually desirable by the general public.

When did this become the norm?

When did this in any way become okay?

How can people see this as okay?

Being considered fuckable should not be a criteria for being deserving of common decency.

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Hate is Worse Than Fat

This woman has 99 inch hips.

As you can imagine, the comments were rife with hate and judgment.

This was my comment.

What is the need for making horrific comments? To prove that you think yourselves superior to this person? That says something pretty awful about you.

If you don’t find this person attractive, fine. Leave her alone. Finding a person unattractive is no excuse for not treating them with common decency.

Expanding on this:

Her proportions are unusual, and I imagine are due to hormones. Estrogen is the reason why women tend to carry more weight in our hips and thighs.

Regardless of the reason why she is shaped the way she is, regardless of whether or not anyone else finds her attractive, she is a human being. She deserves to be treated with common courtesy.

It’s astounding to me how many people think it’s perfectly okay to say awful things about a person whom they don’t even know based on the fact that said person doesn’t look like the current model of beauty.

I honestly think that people are getting meaner and meaner. It’s time to wake up.

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Rebirth

At KHEL 666, we’re all about promoting independent artists as well as sharing longtime favorites.
This is a decent enough background track and has potential to develop into a fine electronica piece. I feel that if he kept working on it and beefed it up a little, gave it a bit of a hook, it could be a really fine tune.
Regarding the video:
I’ll take into consideration that I (49 year old female) am not this fellow’s target audience. However, he almost lost me by starting the video with scantily clad babes. Yawn. I don’t need to see something strikingly innovative to hold my attention, but I would prefer not to see the same old same old. Mix it up a little.
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~DJ Aurora~



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Battle Won, War Far From Over

The Daily Beast reports that the four men responsible for the gang rape resulting in the death of a twenty-three year old student now face the death penalty.

Some commenters were quick to decry the attitudes of men in India towards women. However, as commenter Kelly wisely pointed out:

Read it and condemn. But don’t be so quick to place all the blame on the Indians. This is a world-wide sickness and if you dig deep enough you’ll find something like this going on the the U.S. too. We are not so pristine…it might not happen with the frequency but remember we just had a guy who hid three women in his house for 10 years, beat them, raped them, chained them–need I go on? Plus we seem to have a society that calls women namess for asking for BC iplls or even basic health care. It is a pervading thing within global society as a whole. We call for the death penalty now but do we really do anything to halt the spreading of ideas that cause these horrendous acts? Think about it.

Here is my response to Kelly.

@kelly_1True, and when women stand up and ask for equal rights and respectful treatment, we are called names like “Feminazi” and “jokingly” or not so jokingly told to “get back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich.” If we demand to be treated with respect and dignity, we are told that only fat, ugly women are feminists (as if fat women and women not perceived as traditionally attractive don’t deserve respect too.)

There is a pervasive attitude of apologizing for “good” boys who rape, as in the Steubenville case.

As long as jokes about rape are seen as humorous and people who speak up against such “humor” are told to lighten up, it says something negative about the culture which believes that rape is funny.

As you said, this isn’t true just in India. It’s everywhere, including the first world countries.

you make me a sandwich

There’s not much to add to this, only that if desiring to be treated with common decency, to have equal opportunities, and to be treated like a human being and not a piece of ass makes me a “Feminazi,” then that is a title I will wear proudly.

~Cie~

 

 

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