Fat Women Fuck Too

Kim seems like a completely cool person, and she’s very pretty too. I’m heterosexual by nature, but I’d do her before I’d touch Jeff Leach with someone else’s vagina. That’s how gross I think he is.

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Today from the douchebag files comes the story of UK “actor” and “comedian”  (I use those in scare quotes on purpose, I’m not sure he’s much of either) Jeff Leach, who took it upon himself to screen shot the Tinder profile photograph of the amazing fat activist and all ‘round awesome babe, Kim Selling, and post it to his Instagram with a douchey caption.  He has since deleted it but I happened to take a screen shot and Kim has given me the OK to share it here with you:

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As you can see, by his caption “Left swipe, LEFT SWIPE, LEFFFFTTTTT SWIIIIPPPPEEEE”, he clearly thought it was a HILARIOUS joke to post a picture of a sexually active fat woman and express how he definitely has to reject her.  For those of you unaware of Tinder, it’s an app for smartphones designed for people looking to hook up, and…

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What You’re Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone’s Preferred Gender Pronouns

My son’s best friend is trans (female to male). He has encountered a lot of ignorance and bullying. He lives with a severe version of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and this is more than enough of a challenge without people always telling him that he’s a “freak” or a “pervert.”
I don’t know how long this young man has in this world. All the medications he’s on plus the effects of the disease on his vascular system have caused him to have seizures and, more recently, a subarachnoid bleed and a stroke. He’s not even 20 years old.
This boy is not a pervert or a sicko, he is simply a person who feels that he was born into a body of the wrong gender. He is the gentlest soul and does not deserve the abuses that have been heaped on him.

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It can’t be emphasized enough: Coming out as transgender or any variation thereof is downright terrifying. It is often met with criticism, resistance, and invalidation. When I came out to friends, it felt like the world was crashing down all around me.

And by far, the worst part was the resistance I faced when asking others to stop saying “she.” Beyond coming out, we also ask others to change a very ingrained habit — to use different pronouns when speaking about us. This is where I encountered the most turmoil.

Some folks simply don’t understand what they are saying when they refuse to use someone’s preferred gender pronouns.

When someone states their preferred pronouns (he, she, ze, they, etc), they are asking for your respect. And when you choose not to use these pronouns, and instead opt for your own, you are not only invalidating someone’s identity, but you are…

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the HAES® files: The Dangers of Living in a Safe House

My late father was a healthist when I was growing up. He wouldn’t allow anything made with refined sugar, or any sort of “junk food.” When I went over to friends’ houses, I stuffed my face with as much junk food as I could get my hands on.
I yo-yo dieted from my teens into my mid forties. I have also starved myself, binged and purged, and binged without purging. I do not have a healthy relationship with food.

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by Stacey Nye, PhD

This article originally appeared in the September 2006 issue of the Wisconsin Jewish Chronicle.

I recently presented a workshop at a local spa on healing disconnected eating. As a guest presenter, my husband and I were treated to a weekend of complimentary food, exercise classes and other presentations by the spa’s staff. He attended a workshop given by the staff nutritionist on eating healthy. I was having my complimentary massage at this time, so had to come late. By the time I arrived, he was incensed.   “She’s teaching people to have a “safe house!” he exclaimed under his breath. “And they are all smiling, asking questions and shaking their heads in agreement!” After living with me for over 15 years, he knows better. He’s been educated about the dangers of dieting and the alternative wisdom of the HAES®/ Intuitive Eating process (1,2).

I was raised in…

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Ten Things Not to Say to Someone Who Self-Harms

The one I heard the most was “stop looking for attention.” I’ve also heard “do it right the next time or don’t bother.”

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Self-hate and self-harm When we don’t know who to hate, we hate ourselves. – Chuck Pahlahniuk

For centuries, people have used self-harm to cope with life or discipline themselves. From religious ascetics to depressed teenagers, SIB (self-injurious behavior) can be found in all cultures and eras. Some societies have embraced it while others criticize it. Currently, most people lack awareness and even empathy for this symptom of mental illness.

I am not going to debate what drives every form of self-harm and the validity behind those motives. There are people who believe one can self-harm for good reasons. However, any form of inflicting pain on oneself (outside of for some extreme purpose) is problematic. Yes, that is very controversial and black-and-white. Yet, I have seldom, if ever, seen an exception to this.

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Workplace Woedown

I’m so glad I work with a skeleton crew. Less than skeleton, really. There are only three of us on the night shift in my area of the building: me, one other resident assistant, and the security guard. None of us are big on “diet talk.”
Unfortunately, the co-worker who is on shift before me two days a week tends to prattle on about all her great and vast knowledge of why she is a Food Saint and why People are Obese and how Obesity Causes Disease. I shut her up on one occasion by telling her that I have diabetes, I did not cause my diabetes by eating “bad food,” that you cannot eat your way into diabetes, and that diabetes cannot be cured, it is like cancer and sometimes goes into remission.
Diet talk needs to be made extinct, as do assumptions about other people’s bodies.

Carrot & Ginger Salad (not really a salad)

Since being diagnosed with diabetes, I eat a lot more vegetables. Fruit is actually okay too, though. I can still eat dessert, I just have to actually measure my portions now where previously I didn’t give a damn. The one thing I had to give up is juice. (sob) Yeah, I know, I know, it’s the beverage of Satan, right up there with soda, yada yada. However, I love grape juice and mango-orange-pineapple juice and the Dole Pina Colada blend. I love them, and I make no bones about it. I would still drink them if I could!

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I have to admit, I’m not a huge vegetable eater. I’m developing a taste for them, but give me fruit any day of the week and twice on a Sunday. But this “salad” kills two birds with one stone. It’s full of veggie goodies, but is sweet and absolutely delicious. Sometimes I eat it as a snack, but a big bowl of it will also do me for breakfast. It’s quick and easy to make, and the recipe will last one person a good few days. Anyway, without further ado, let me share Carrot & Ginger Salad.

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Progress Report —

I have nothing but praise for this fine analysis of young Huffington’s performance. However, I sadly do not see him doing anything to alter the error of his ways anytime in the near future.

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Trigger warning: Discussion of articles about weight loss, eating disorders and weight loss surgery.

Welcome to Parents Night, Mr. and Mrs. Post. It’s such a pleasure to see you again. You’ve got quite the ambitious rapscallion on your hands with Young Huffington. He’s quite a resourceful lad and I have to say he’s one of my favorite aggregators by far. He provides us with daily updates on the state of the world, politics and pop culture in a way that is both entertaining and informative. And he’s quite popular, to boot.

There’s just one area that I feel I need to bring to your attention. It’s his Body Acceptance. He’s certainly…

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Republican Family Values – ‘Native American tribe cancels Ted Nugent concert over his ‘racist views,’ ‘hate-filled remarks’

Ted may have the right to spout his bigoted views, but that doesn’t mean that anyone is forced to listen to or accept them. He’s really gone off the rails in recent years. Good for the casino for cancelling his shows. He’ll probably never see the error of his ways, but at least he isn’t getting paid for it!
Being a halfway decent guitarist who has sold records does not give one carte blanche to spew whatever hateful rhetoric that comes to one’s mind.

The Last Of The Millenniums

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The mantra from the Republicans is “Liberals aren’t tolerant of someone who doesn’t agree with them”.

No.

Liberals aren’t tolerant of hate.

This isn’t freedom of speech. This is just vile hate.

Any one who isn’t against this……doesn’t want a civil society.

And that would be the teabaggers.

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‘Ted Nugent hits campaign trail after calling Obama ‘subhuman mongrel'(1)

‘Nugent says Obama administration is like Nazis'(2)

‘Ted Nugent: President Obama Just Like Child Molesters And Carjackers’!(3)

TACOMA, Wash. — ‘Emerald Queen Casino will cancel two Ted Nugent concerts that were scheduled August 2 and 3 over allegations of racist remarks by the singer’.

Puyallup Tribe officials said the decision came after learning that Nugent has said racist remarks’.

“The first amendment gives people the right free speech, but I think racism is intolerable and not acceptable here,” said Puyallup Tribal Council Vice President Lawrence W. LaPointe. “We’ve been getting…

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The Bethenny Frankel Body Debacle

I really don’t have much of an opinion one way or another on Bethenny Frankel, except that I hate that “Real Housewives” crap, and I will never buy any of the crap she shills. I imagine that the woman does have issues with eating disorders, and as far as that goes, I feel sympathy for her. This is what our fatphobic culture causes. It helps no-one of any size. I fear that there is a great likelihood that Bethenny’s daughter will develop an eating disorder too, if she hasn’t already.
I have no reason to hate Bethenny for her size, and I think it’s wrong for people to belittle her for such. However, she does seem to have a need to show that she can fit into her daughter’s pajamas, thus saying “look how not fat I am. I deserve to be liked.” This is what goes on in the psyche of every person who struggles with an eating disorder.
On the whole, I wish Bethenny and her daughter well. I have no reason not to.

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Trigger warning: Discussion of eating disorders, weight loss and a posted image of a thin celebrity.

One good thing about social media is that fat-shamers can instantly get called out on their hateful attitudes in real time. Maria Kang took heat on Facebook for her “what’s your excuse?” posts and her negative opinions on larger women taking pictures of themselves wearing Curvy Girl lingerie. Marie Claire writer Maura Kelly faced immediate backlash and threats of subscription cancellations for saying she didn’t want to see fat people being intimate on TV, much less walk into a room. There was the Cintra Wilson incident, where she was boycotted by fat activists and…

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