A World Without She-Roes

angelou3-sizedApril 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014

“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” — Maya Angelou

She-Ra, Princess of Power

She-roes is a bit of a silly word and reminds me of She-Ra, Princess of Power, who was He-Man’s sister, for those who don’t watch cartoons. However, there is great truth in this quote. A world without she-roes is a world imbalanced.

I can’t believe that in the twenty-first century, there is still a debate as to whether women should be treated as anything but human beings. There is still a need for feminism, and feminism is still misunderstood.

When I say that I’m a feminist (and have been since I was a child), some people will picture me as being a little bit something like this.


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I’d consider posting an actual picture of myself, but since there are a myriad of assholes on the Internet, I don’t want to find my picture circulating later with rude comments. Suffice it to say, I’m a very boring-looking middle-aged woman that nobody would give a second glance. I’d be far more likely to show up on the deplorable “People of Wal Mart” than in anyone’s list of “MILFs We’d Like To.” Both People of Wal Mart and the term “MILF” are things I’d like to see abolished, but these are rants for another time.

There are Radfems (radical feminists) who believe that there is no way that men and women can get along. There are probably women who genuinely hate men, and, I will add, someone has given them reason to. People do not start hating other people for no reason. However, I am not a Radfem, and neither are most people who identify as feminists.

The Oxford English dictionary defines feminism thusly:

Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, cultural, and social rights for women.This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women.

That’s pretty much it in a nutshell.

Some people say that there is no longer any need for feminism. I say that there will no longer be a need for feminism when:

Women are no longer second class citizens.

Women are finally getting equal pay for equal work.

Women are finally offered the same opportunities as men in all areas of life.

Female lawyers, doctors, politicians, astronauts, scientists, engineers, etc. are just lawyers, doctors, politicians, astronauts, scientists, engineers, etc. and the fact that they are women is not seen as something startling.

Women are no longer considered window dressing or referred to in such terms as “eye candy,” “arm candy,” or “trophy wife.”

Women are seen as actual people and not expected to be “pretty” or “hot” at all times.

It isn’t startling when a woman does something that earns the admiration of others.

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Yes, we’re still fighting the fight, and yes, I still believe it can be won. It’s real women–real people–that will make this happen.

Strong women don’t necessarily look like this:


They can also look like this:

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Thank you, Maya Angelou, for being a true She-ro. Shine on!

~The Cheese Hath Spoken~

This post was inspired by a Write Tribe prompt.

Battle Won, War Far From Over

The Daily Beast reports that the four men responsible for the gang rape resulting in the death of a twenty-three year old student now face the death penalty.

Some commenters were quick to decry the attitudes of men in India towards women. However, as commenter Kelly wisely pointed out:

Read it and condemn. But don’t be so quick to place all the blame on the Indians. This is a world-wide sickness and if you dig deep enough you’ll find something like this going on the the U.S. too. We are not so pristine…it might not happen with the frequency but remember we just had a guy who hid three women in his house for 10 years, beat them, raped them, chained them–need I go on? Plus we seem to have a society that calls women namess for asking for BC iplls or even basic health care. It is a pervading thing within global society as a whole. We call for the death penalty now but do we really do anything to halt the spreading of ideas that cause these horrendous acts? Think about it.

Here is my response to Kelly.

@kelly_1True, and when women stand up and ask for equal rights and respectful treatment, we are called names like “Feminazi” and “jokingly” or not so jokingly told to “get back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich.” If we demand to be treated with respect and dignity, we are told that only fat, ugly women are feminists (as if fat women and women not perceived as traditionally attractive don’t deserve respect too.)

There is a pervasive attitude of apologizing for “good” boys who rape, as in the Steubenville case.

As long as jokes about rape are seen as humorous and people who speak up against such “humor” are told to lighten up, it says something negative about the culture which believes that rape is funny.

As you said, this isn’t true just in India. It’s everywhere, including the first world countries.

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There’s not much to add to this, only that if desiring to be treated with common decency, to have equal opportunities, and to be treated like a human being and not a piece of ass makes me a “Feminazi,” then that is a title I will wear proudly.





Tell Me Again Why We Don’t Need Feminism: The Huffington Post

This is a comment I made on a Huffington Post article which started out featuring a quote from Meghan McCain, the daughter of Senator John McCain, and for reasons unknown, devolved into a fashion show. Because, you know, women and their pretty frocks. A woman’s sole purpose, in the eyes of the general public, is still to be eye candy, a good little girl who looks pretty and obeys the orders of the menfolk; or a bad girl to excite and arouse the menfolk. A woman is not supposed to be a human being with opinions and ideas that might contradict what the menfolk are saying.

Just look at the sidebar to see more about what a woman’s place in society is supposed to be. It’s all about being eye candy.

My comment on the article:

Am I the only one who finds it discouraging that this piece ends with the “style evolution of Meghan McCain?” Rather than take this young woman seriously as a political pundit who might have something to say, it all boils down to “what was she wearing?” I guess it’s a step above “Meghan McCain looking hot in a slinky ensemble” or other such twaddle. However, I doubt anyone would ever have thought to put together a slide show featuring the “style evolution of John McCain.”

That’s my two (feminist) cents.

Waiting for the Hate Brigade to tell me how I’m a man-hating Feminazi who is trying to bring about the downfall of the family and of civilization as we know it.